CARNAL NATION

If a partner's fetish has completely overshadowed your entire sex life or crosses personal boundaries, then it is definitely time to speak up about the problem. If your biggest complaint is that your partner's fetish can be dull after awhile, then it is a good time to share the bedroom and brainstorm ways to integrate your fantasies as well. Sharing a fetish that others find strange with a partner takes a lot of courage, and it can be devastating to have it rejected outright. There is no polite way to tell someone to "stop being such a freak." Even if you ask him in the nicest way possible to stop doing something that is integral to his sexuality, it might lead to resentment on his end. We may not always have identical fantasies as our partners, but chances are you do have practice supporting partners with different interests. Have you ever sat through a movie that you didn't particularly enjoy because a partner absolutely loved it? Have you ever compromised on a way to spend a Sunday afternoon? Those same skills also work well in the bedroom, and indulging your partner in something that is important to him might make him more likely to return the favor when it's your turn.
 
When his foot fetish starts to get dull, think of some things that you find sexy. When he grinds up against your feet, you could start masturbating or have him play with other parts of your body at the same time. Plus a partner with a foot fetish can come with some added perks. Where some partners might complain about shoe shopping, it sounds like he would be interested in tagging along to help you find a sexy new pair of heels. Do you find yourself getting extra food rubs at home after a long day at work? What about a home pedicure while you soak in the bath? Although you may not get the same sexual kick out of your feet as he does, there are other ways to benefit from his fascination with them. So enjoy those compliments and the fact that your boyfriend finds your feet irresistible. Also know that he has enough faith and trust in you as a partner to share something intimate.