CARNAL NATION

I know strap-ons are sexy, but if I were you, I would not worry about putting any pressure on yourself to have this happen on a specific night. There is way too much potential for anxiety and shame to creep in and spoil the event for the both of you. Take your time! There’s no rush: just slow down and get comfortable with the idea of ass play first. For instance, the next time she’s blowing you, instruct her to play with your ass gently with her finger. Have some silicone lube within arm’s reach, and tell her you want her to stroke both your ass and your cock at the same time. Tell her that if she really wants to fuck you, then she needs to become more familiar with your ass first. Let her know that you want some seduction and foreplay before she pops your anal cherry with her strap-on.

Your job, aside from directing the speed at which this all commences, is to enjoy yourself immensely and pay attention to what you like, how you like it, and let her know what feels best. This is a great way to incorporate talking dirty into your sex life without it feeling like you are pretending or acting. The next step is to start incorporating toys into your play. Again, tell her to pleasure both your ass and cock at the same time, but this time she is going to use a dildo instead of her fingers. You will have pre-selected a toy with a flanged end that is compatible for use with a harness, of course, as well as the harness itself. Her learning “how to fuck without ever having had a dick” is way more about listening to you, your body and its responses to her touch, than practicing a specific technique.

Love and lube,

Nadia