The connection between sexuality and spirituality is so strong and so ancient that the first “coin” ever minted granted access to sacred sex rites. The shekel in ancient Sumeria represented a bushel of wheat donated to the Temple of Inanna to feed the orphans and priestesses who lived there. In recognition of the offering, the donor received a token with a picture of Inanna on one side and a sheaf of wheat on the other. This coin was redeemed at the temple on feast days in order to participate in the fertility rites. The fertility rites included sex with the Goddess – represented by one of the Temple Priestesses – and insured a fertile, prosperous year for those who honored the Goddess in this way.
The ancient Sumerians were not the first—nor the last—to recognize a strong connection between sex and spirit. A long tradition of sex practiced in connection with spirituality lurks in the history of many world religions. Hinduism has a history of sacred sexual practices that continues to this day. Erotic teachings, derived from Tantra and other belief systems, have been incorporated into some Buddhist and Hindu sects. Ancient Judaism had separate words for whore and sacred whore, indicating a spiritual connection with sex—under certain circumstances.
Egyptians, Persians, Semites, and Babylonians all had sacred whores—variously named Horea, Houris, Harine and Hor, all precursors to the word “whore” —in their temples. Greek priestesses performed sexual rites in the Temples of Aphrodite. Rome had her Vestal Virgins and held orgies, called Bacchanalia, dedicated to Bacchus.
Since those days, sex has lost its high status in most of the world's religions. Now it seems that if religious leaders aren't placing prohibitions against sex or restrictions on when or with whom it's OK to have sex, they're making rules for how to do it.
We are all familiar with the Abrahamic religions' (Judaism, Christianity and Islam) prohibitions on sex with anyone you are not married to. These same religions have decreed, at various times through history, that sex with a menstruating woman is unclean; that a man must have sex with his brother's widow (to produce an heir); and that certain activities (name your favorites here!) are sins. Sodomy even spent a few centuries as one of the Roman Catholic Church's mortal sins, meaning that engaging in it assured you a place in Hell for eternity, a fate famously avoided by the Martyrs of Uganda upon their execution for refusing sex to their king and his guests. Sodomy may have been downgraded to merely a Purgatory-earning venial sin by now, but of course, it's still a sin to enjoy any sexual activity unless you are conceiving a child at that moment.
Good heavens! How did we get here from there?"
That is the subject of this column, and as we journey from ancient spirit-sex practices to today's religious understandings of sex, we'll travel the world and travel human history. We'll investigate sex with the gods, sex for the gods, and sex while invoking the gods – yes, even that “Oh God!” moment. We'll look at how different traditions describe sacred sex and teach about it. And I'll share some of the practices that you – yes, you – can try at home!
Sex is powerful beyond our understanding. Those who worshipped in the temples of the past knew the power of a direct connection with the divine, and they understood how sexuality could make that connection. They saw the creation of life result from this activity, and saw divinity in it. Those who served in the temples learned to use it. They could build their erotic energy up to the edge of climax, then direct it toward a creative outcome other than procreation, such as sex magick or erotic healing. They also taught others how to make love with caring, respect and pleasure.
Current-day erotic healers do the same, each in their own way. So we'll alternate our historical/cultural journey with introductions to some of today's erotic healers, courageous women and men who are re-igniting the flames of sacred passion. These are people who are re-learning what our ancestors knew about the power of Eros, and are teaching others how to develop and use it.
Some have found a way to associate themselves with a temple, but most have not. Temples to the Goddess are rare these days. And sacred sex healing temples dedicated to male gods are rarer still. In general, religions with only male gods don't appreciate sex the way goddess religions do. But there are some male gods of love, lust and sex, such as Eros himself.
So today's practitioners have had to find ways to answer their calling in spite of challenges from our society and its cultural beliefs. We'll see how they do that with compassion and grace. I experienced that compassion first hand years ago. I had a number of sessions with sacred erotic healers that started a process that continues to improve my life in many ways, not all of them sexual.
Some of these healers were men and some women; some were professionals, yet most would consider themselves neither sex workers nor healers. With few legal avenues for professional erotic touch, and social disapproval for those who do so anyway, masterful erotic touch is a rare blessing. Most who take it on professionally follow an avocation stronger than most people could imagine having for their daily work.
Since my initial experiences with the extraordinary healing power of the erotic, I've participated in an amazing variety of sacred erotic rituals that revealed the incredible power and glory of firsthand connection with the divine. As we journey through past and present stories of sex with the gods and goddesses, I'll share some of those experiences, too.
Margaret Wade
March 2nd, 2009
Margaret L. Wade is an adult educator, writer, and certified sexological bodyworker. Margaret has taught, written, and presented papers in the fields of education, computer information systems,...














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Nice Introduction
Nice introduction, I like how it connects the ancients to the now.
I did find the Reclaiming Eros site which has some interesting chapters from the book available.
Looking forward to more.
Misogyny & Religion
All of the misogynistic religions have bad attitudes toward sex, especially female sexuality. Much of what you point out, especially about the monotheistic religions is a shining example of why organized religion is the single worst thing to be developed by mankind.
Mysoginistic?
Put simply it's only since the invention of contraception (excepting more permanent and painful methods, such as the Stone age vasectomy) that anyone has even thought to question the idea that there is a relational side to sex. The risk of pregnancy being the factor that required some form of understanding that the woman would continue to be looked after... Which helps men how exactly?
The presence of social customs binding a male to one female is as a precursor to child support, since prior to the computer age it wasn't difficult to skip town (not even country or state) and escape any consequences, but for obvious reasons this was only available to men.
So I'm curious as to how a system to protect women from enforced single motherhood is in any way mysoginistic?
Yet Christianity managed to
Yet Christianity managed to displace paganism in the Roman Empire despite many years of official repression. One suspects that it offered advantages to its adherents, including women. I wonder what those advantages were.
Please try not to lump Judaism in with Christianity...
I'm not knowledgable enough to speak for Islam, but I would like to point out that in Judaism, sex is one of the three rights which a husband owes his wife on a regular basis (the other two happen to be: food and new clothing twice a year). And there is definite rabbinic endorsement for women climaxing first - as well as most sexual acts, barring adultery, incest, rape and homosexual acts (I think that's most of them).
A system that advocates regular, pleasurable sex for its womenfolk, where there is a legal mechanism in place for punishing rapists, where the children (or consequences resulting from sex) are the responsibility of both legal adults doesn't seem extraordinarily misogynistic to me.
I would also like to mention that in Judaism, a man need not "have sex with his brother's widow." In addition to the written law of Judaism (as seen in the Bible, a document you are clearly familiar with), there is also an extraordinarily extensive oral law, developed for roughtly over the past 4,000 years, give or take a few centuries. In this oral law, the ritual given for avoiding the "sex with brother's widow) is given forth in greater detail than it is in the text and is, in fact, encouraged in most cases especially in modern times.
In most sects of Judaism, sex is not meant to be indulged in for purely procreative purposes. There are also a few other reasons, such as connecting to the Divine; connecting to your partner; enjoying yourself - and having fun.
Very few characters in the Bible were condemned for enjoying themselves sexually in what were considered to be proper contexts. King David was called out for adultery; King Solomon for having more than the limit of 18 wives; Song of Songs has traditionally been considered among the holiest of books of the Hebrew Bible (according to an extraordinarily well respected rabbi: R' Akiba). Please note that in Song of Songs, the man and woman are not married and are actually having quite explicit pre-marital sex.
Please also remember that in Judaism, "unclean" is just a definition with no real social stigma attached to it and tends to give couples something of a honeymoon period after the "unclean" period is finished. (Yes, abstinence can make the heart grow fonder).
On the whole, Judaism's attitude towards sex is a bit healthier than the one you've described. Judaism does not have any prohibition on sex between two consenting, unmarried partners of opposite genders when BOTH are in a state of ritual purity.
While there are restrictions on sex in Judaism, a large part of that was due to the acknowledgement that sex was/is an extremely powerful act and sacred - and sacred is another way of saying "set apart."