CarnalNation

We asked our favorite Woman Who Has Had Her Hand In More Women Than We Could Ever Dream Of: Deborah Addington, author of A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting.  And she says…

“You’re panting, hot, sweaty, and still rolling on the endorphin sea of her orgasm.  Her breathing slows, becomes more regular and her eyes flutter open with a hint of returning consciousness in them.  She grunts in lover’s language that you should pull your hand out now, which is fine by you; your wrist is at an awkward angle and your fingers have been cramping for a few minutes now, compressed by the intensity of her contractions.  You begin to uncurl your fingers and start to withdraw your hand, only to hear her make a pain noise because of the suction pulling on her innards.

“You’re stuck.  Your cramping, torqued hand is stuck in her vagina.

“There’s a moment of panic, which you ride through like a champ, not making any sudden moves.  There’s a moment of awe as you contemplate the strength of her vaginal muscles.  Then you remember something you read: ‘Don’t be alarmed if you start to pull back and find that your fist doesn’t seem to want to leave its nice, cozy nest.  If that happens, don’t try to yank your fist out by pulling harder.  Try to hold as still as you can; without the help of her now-spent passion, she’s going to feel every little move even more intensely.  The contractions that accompany a woman’s orgasm are so powerful that her muscles have created a vacuum around your fist.  To gently break the seal, moisten a finger of your free hand and slowly, gently slide it along your wrist into the palm, or along the back of your hand.  You won’t need to go in very far; you’ll know you’ve broken the seal when you feel the squeeze loosen up a bit.  There may even be a small tupperwarish pop.  Pull out slowly, asking her for feedback.’

“Because you’ve been a good fister and educated yourself, you don’t panic—you know what to do.  You break the seal, and slowly and gently slide your hand out.  She even offers to massage it for you.  Once you get the feeling back in your fingers, you use your hand to pet and cuddle, snuggle, and caress, with a profound respect for her body and a great new anecdote to tell at parties.”