Your Sex Magic Reading for November 2009

Happy New Year, Everyone! No, that is not a misprint. In the Pagan Wheel of the Year, Samhain (Halloween) is considered the beginning of the year. It is a time to reflect and honor those who have passed and to celebrate those who are born. It is the time of the last harvest and the beginning of looking toward the long winter ahead. Fall is such a beautiful time. Enjoy it. Spend time with friends: celebrate life. Find something new you love to do and work with it through winter. Just remember that the chill of fall/winter is perfect for hot steamy evenings at home, either alone or with a friend or two.

Sex Magic is being conscious of what you and your partner(s) want and making it happen. It's about letting go of your stigmas and pretenses and getting real. Each month, I will draw three cards for each sign. We will look at the month with the Overall Card. Each month has its own tone, and this card sets it. Next is the Challenge Card. Here we look at what pushes your buttons. Sometimes the challenges propel us forward, or they keep us from really seeing what we need to focus on. The final card is your Homework: what you should be working on this month to enhance your sex life.

Aries

Aries: March 21- April 19 for November 2009

Overall: Mistress of Whips

Challenge: The Hanged Man

Homework: 9 of Paddles

This month you take the crown for being the Master of big talk and no action. Seriously, my dear Aries, you can’t always please everyone and plan everything out. November is going to be a month to take some much needed downtime. Look at it as a chance to assess everything you have accomplished and relish in it. Even though you are internally driven to attend every sex education event in your town this month, take the time to choose wisely. Go to one event not six. Think of it as a month-long beauty nap to get you ripe and ready for the holiday season.

Taurus

Taurus: April 20- May 20 for November 2009

Overall: The Chariot

Challenge: 3 of Vibrators

Homework: 8 of Paddles

So, my lovely Venus-ruled Taurean, life is finally looking up for you. Overall this month is filled with travel and lovely new things to tempt you. The Chariot is all about finding your higher potential and self, whether it be discovering that you are turned on by pony play or that you have a knack for tying great knots. Don’t get stuck in a rut and wait for things to come to you. Seriously, get out there and do it. Your homework is to find what you do well and sell it to everyone you know. Before you know it, there will be a huge line of people begging you to put harnesses on them. Live a little.

Gemini

Gemini: May 21- June 20 for November 2009

Overall: 9 of Fantasies

Challenge: 10 of Vibrators

Homework: Ace of Paddles

Stress does nasty things to our sex lives. Women can’t get in the mood, and men just can’t get it up. It really makes for unhappy situations. The hard part for you, my dear Twins, is that you want to be in the mood. November is filled with parties that will help you forget that life is a little on the overwhelming side right now. There will be lots of drinking and mindless interludes that get you off, but the big picture speaks to something much greater: the need to decide what is valuable in your life and let the rest go! Your homework is to choose one thing and focus on it. Maybe it is time for you to stop speed dating and actually find the one person you may be interested in settling down with. It's just a thought.

Cancer

Cancer: June 21- July 22 for November 2009

Overall: The Tower

Challenge: 10 of Fantasies

Homework: Wheel of Fortune

November is a whirlwind of emotions for you, my dear Crab. Overall, there is a huge desire for simplification in your life: whether it be breaking out of the crazy poly relationship you are in or cleaning out your toy box of useless vibrators. The difficult part is that you are such a sentimentalist you want to keep everything and get rid of nothing. Sorry that doesn’t work. Look at it this way: if you empty the box of crap that doesn’t get you off, you will have plenty of space to fill it with things that do. Think of this month as the opportunity to expand your horizons. Fall is all about change, and you are the fall season's poster child.

Leo

Leo: July 23- August 22 for November 2009

Overall: Death

Challenge: 3 of Whips

Homework: Knight of Paddles

When things go wrong for a Leo, it is usually pretty dramatic. Your life is very opera like: it is filled with glamour, lust, desire, drama, and deceit. This month is unfortunately a show stopper. The old saying “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” should be the bumper sticker on your car this month. Once in a while we have to let things die. Seriously, why are you holding on to a relationship or desire that hasn’t worked for you? Unless you want the prize for being the number one masochist in the world, why are you taking it up the ass without lube? Let go and move on. The flip side to all this drama is that you walk away holding the one thing that really is valuable to you: who you are.

Virgo

Virgo: August 23- September 22 for November 2009

Overall: Justice

Challenge: The Mistress

Homework: 6 of Vibrators

Think of November as the month you put your Halloween costume away for good. It is time for you to remove the masks you wear, look people straight in the eye, and tell them exactly what you think and need. It is important to get your desires met, and if the regular peeps in your life can’t meet your needs, get out there and rally for someone who can. Emotions tend to get in your way of making decisions, so really focus your energy on what would serve you best and where your talents would be the most respected. If you want to be a domme, then act like one. People will follow those whom they trust and respect. This is your month to manifest that trust and respect.

Libra

Libra: September 23 – October 22 for November 2009

Overall: 9 of Vibrators

Challenge: 5 of Fantasies

Homework: 5 of Whips

As I look back over this year, I realize, my dear Libra, that you have been dealt a pretty crappy hand. I am hoping this month is the last of the tough ones for you. You really are the perfect portrait of a hero: even through hard times, you show up and help as much as possible. The problem is that this takes physical, emotional, and mental tolls on you. It is hard to be the hero when you are emotionally hurt and have been verbally and mentally abused. The solution to this situation: fight back. Stop letting people walk over you—this includes family and friends, not just lovers. I want you to buy yourself a t-shirt that says “It really is all about me” and wear it everyday until you believe it. Honestly, nothing is going to shift in your life until you get back in the driver's seat and take control.

Scorpio

Scorpio: October 23 – November 21 for November 2009

Overall: Page of Fantasies

Challenge: Lust

Homework: 9 of Whips

I have always been a little jealous of my Scorpio friends. You get to celebrate Halloween, the Day of the Dead, and your birthday all in one month! It is a party from start to finish. This year it is all about fulfilling your fantasies without fear. Are you a straight man who is turned on by cross dressing? Go for it! A hot butch who likes it when the neighbors watch? Leave the curtains open! Since Scorpio rules the sex organs, you are a natural sex machine. You have so many options this month that you need to be careful of wearing yourself out before the party even starts. Seriously, stop worrying about what anyone else will think and get on with wearing those pink tights under your suit. Happy Birthday!

Sagittarius

Sagittarius: November 22- December 21 for November 2009

Overall: 6 of Paddles

Challenge: 7 of Fantasies

Homework: 4 of Vibrators

I have yet to meet a Sag that is an introvert. My favorite Centaurs are all very socially driven people. They like getting out and meeting new peeps. They really put out for the people who need help in their lives. This month showcases that trait. Spend time with those people who really need you right now. Help them out as much as you can—even if a mercy friend fuck is called for. Just remember to stay focused on your needs, too. Get your own life organized the way you want it to be first, and then be available to your friends. Everyone wins this month. Who knows, a friendship may turn into something a little hotter by the end of it.

Aquarius

Aquarius: January 20- February 18 for November 2009

Overall: The Moon

Challenge: 7 of Vibrators

Homework: 3 of Paddles

Feeling a little overwhelmed and emotional lately? It is tough being an individualist in a society that is more accepting of conformity. November is going to be an emotional rollercoaster for you, and my advice is just to pace yourself. Pay attention to those dreams and fantasies since you can really manifest them with a bit of work. Remember if it keeps on popping into your head (or making other heads pop), it is probably worth investigating and looking into. Don’t think too much about other people's opinions of your sex life; focus instead on yourself and getting off to your fantasies. A little work goes a long way: learn how to use that crazy new vibrator on yourself this month, and you will get to use it on someone else very soon.

Capricorn

Capricorn: December 22- January 19 for November 2009

Overall: The Master

Challenge: 4 of Fantasies

Homework: Ace of Whips

I truly believe that most Capricorns spend their entire adult lives proving that they are sensitive sexual beings contrary to what the stereotypical traits of the sign actually are. Well, damn it, this month that theory is shot to hell. Your reading for November is about as stereotypical Capricorn as a rainbow flag and men in pink hot pants are symbolically gay. Overall this month is about you being in control and never wanting to leave the driver's seat. You have this vision of what the perfect sex life entails, but you are so caught up in what those four things are that when people offer you other options, you snub them. Damn it! How will you ever find out that you are turned on by violet wands if you never give them a chance? Since you seem to have it up your ass to get organized and structured this month, how about creating a list of things you would like to try over the next year. You can get off on checking things off your list and, with some hope and a little luck, get off at the same time to something new.

Pisces

Pisces: February 19- March 20 for November 2009

Overall: King of Vibrators

Challenge: 10 of Paddles

Homework: 7 of Whips

We all have months when we feel invincible. Hey, guess what? Your number is up! November is all about being in your power. People find themselves attracted to you on so many levels this month. You exude a scent that is tempting and tantalizing to anyone within your social circle. The hardest part is that there is only one of you! You can’t be ten places at once, so really plan out which parties you want to attend and when you should just stay home with a bubble bath and a waterproof vibrator. Back in the 80s, there was a great leather bar in San Francisco called the Billboard Café, and their slogan was “The best political defense is a social offense.” Live by those words this month, and see what you might attract to your life. Sometimes bad boys and girls do have more fun.

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Sex Magic

by: Ida Lovelace

November 2nd, 2009

Ida Lovelace is a professional tarot reader in San Francisco, CA. With over 20 years of experience, she blends humor with insight to help her clients deal with everyday issues. She is available for readings by appointment only. Please contact her at idalovelace@gmail.com for rates and information.