10 Ways to Observe Pornography Awareness Week
Today starts WRAP Week: White Ribbons Against Pornography.
Sponsored by groups including Concerned Women for America (CWA) and Morality in Media (MIM), the goal of the week is “to educate the public about the extent of the pornography problem and what can constitutionally be done about it.” The groups involved suggest activities for observing the week, such as urging the Attorney General to enforce obscenity laws.
I totally agree with the idea behind WRAP. I support increasing everyone’s awareness of pornography use in this country—how many people watch it, who these people typically are, how it affects them and their relationships, what are rights are regarding pornography, etc. Of course, I have a different, more scientific take on the “problem,” so I propose a different set of activities to observe the Week.
To counter the obscene lies our media and legislators will be hearing this week, perhaps you could do one (or more!) of the following:
* If you use porn, talk about it with your partner.
* Thank the clerk in your local convenience store for carrying porn magazines or videos.
* Write a letter to the editor of your local paper explaining that most people who use porn have no problem with it.
* Invite your partner to share her/his concerns about porn with you.
* Instead of a White Ribbon, wear a Plaid Ribbon. When people ask, say it’s for Porn Awareness Week and your gratitude for the First Amendment.
* Start a conversation with someone: “Did you know that the Bill of Rights says
nothing about an exception for porn, obscenity, or indecency?
* Send a few bucks to the ACLU, National Coalition Against Censorship or Woodhull Freedom Foundation. They protect your right to read, watch, and jack off to whatever adult material you like.
* Write your mayor or governor reminding them that you vote, and you have no problem with porn.
* Memorize these facts: in the real world, porn is NOT connected with violence against women, child molestation, or divorce. In fact, according to the FBI, these have all declined since the country was flooded with internet porn in 2000.
* Use some.
Bonus: What to say to people who claim that pornography causes most of America’s problems:
* “Of course some rapists and wife-beaters use pornography. So do 50,000,000 other Americans, and it doesn’t make them rape or beat anyone.”
* “Of course some people watch way too much porn. Other people watch way too much football, reality TV, or the Weather Channel. That doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with any of them.”
* “Porn doesn’t make men withdraw from their wives and girlfriends. Men withdraw for a variety of reasons. No pictures or stories can compete with a satisfying sexual & emotional relationship with a live person.”
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Other ways
* create some of your porn. You'll see it's hard work but nothing harming the subjects:
- write
- record or take a picture
Sure, you are acknowledging
Sure, you are acknowledging the rights of the public to view whatever they want, but I feel that your article glazes over, generalizes, and diminishes the effects of mainstream pornography on society.
Let's take a look at some figures:
In Phoenix (1988), neighborhoods with a porn outlet had 500% more sexual offenses than neighborhoods without. (U.S. Department of Justice, 1988)
100% of strippers surveyed in 1999 said that they'd experienced physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal harassment, and offers for prostitution while on the job. (K. Holsopple)
A 1984 research study found that the state of Alaska ranked first both in porn magazine sales AND in rapes. Nevada was second on both measures. (Baron and Straus)
At the 2002 American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers convention, attorneys present reported that 56% of their recent divorce cases resulted from a spouse's compulsive Internet porn use (Paul, 2005)
After watching only six hours of nonviolent pornography, research subjects were much less likely to want to marry or have children than subjects in the control group. (Zillmann and Bryant)
(This example sounds extreme, but it is a very interesting and eye-opening experiment--I suggest you take a look at it)
Zillmann and Bryant's research studies, completed in the 1980's, were so successful at proving the irreversible negative effects of viewing pornography tat ethics boards will not allow further studies on the topic to be undertaken. (Paul, 2005)
It is estimated that 15% of people using Internet pornography develop a compulsive habit that disrupts their lives (Paul, 2004)
"In 1984, Dr. John Court examined changes in rape rates in several countries that had periods of greater or lesser legal control of pornography. He concluded that greater legal control of porn appears to hold down rape rates. Similarly, Baron and Straus (1984, 1985) have shown a highly significant statistical correlation between state by state circulation rates for seven porn magazines (Playboy, Oui, Hustler, Genesis, Gallery, Chic and Club) and state by state reported rape rates. Their study revealed that proliferation of pornographic magazines and the level of urbanization explained variance in rape rates more than did unemployment, economic inequality, sexual inequality, and social disorganization. In Mary Koss's 1986 national survey of over 6000 college students, she found that college men who reported behavior that meets the legal definition of rape were significantly more likely than men who did not report such behavior to be frequent readers of at least one of the following magazines: Playboy, Penthouse, Chic, Club, Forum, Gallery, Genesis, Oui, and Hustler."
(http://www.nostatusquo.com/ACLU/dworkin/other/ordinance/HillSilverOrd1.html)
I don't know about you, but I would say that the rights of women to not be exploited, objectified, beaten, and dehumanized trumps the "right" of people to view pornography.
Pearls & Porn.
I don't know about you, but I would say that the rights of women to not be exploited, objectified, beaten, and dehumanized trumps the "right" of people to view pornography.
Quit clutching your pearls. Those two things are only related by a misogynist, shaming system that marginalized sex workers and forces sex work on the marginalized. Correlation is not causation. Ask any statistician. You can spew as many statistics as you want, but it doesn't mean anything except to polarize and galvanize social conservatives and to put money into the pockets of lobbyists and politicians. Right now the right of women not to be exploited, objectified, beaten, and dehumanized doesn't trump jack on the social conservative agenda, anywhere. Porn is a dog whistle issue and I refuse to bark -- so should other people.
So, just going on what you've put out here...
Poor neighborhoods need jobs and have higher crime rates and lower police presence, wealthy neighborhoods need property value and have higher police presence and the residents have little impetus to be involved in crime. Guess which neighborhood gets the porn outlet and the crime? The rich folks don't even have to drive down to get it anymore.
100% of strippers have an extremely high chance of working for a terrible employer in the presence of men who don't respect a woman's right to say no. Having never been a stripper and only rarely having had my right to say no respected, I'm certain that most of those men didn't respect a woman's right to say no when they walked in there. The problem is not that they are taking off their clothes.
Alaska and Nevada both have areas of unusual cultural/sociological profiles which involve large numbers of risk-seeking men within an elevated culture of entitlement and a high number of migratory or temporary residents with less investment in following the law and maintaining a safe community.
Compulsive internet porn use is a symptom, not a cause. It is also a charge to which most 'moral' judges -- no matter what they do in the privacy of their own homes -- are going to be sympathetic; or else. A judge who blows off a charge of 'compulsive internet porn use' is going to look very, very bad in public. Also, what are the affiliations and goals of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers?
Correlation is not causation. Again. Also, a piece of media does not have the be violent in order to be blatantly objectifying, abusive, and damaging. "Nonviolent" is a planted cue; people shouldn't fall for it.
What's the "adverse habit" rate on coffee, alcohol, junk food, gossip sites, Twitter, World of Warcraft, and other stimulating/numbing activities?
Pornography has been controlled by a misogynist culture. But pornography -- by the definition -- does not have to include misogyny. The studies you cite are linked to entitlement and misogyny and socialization, not material depicting people having sex. There is a difference. There is also a possibility that people who feel entitled to a woman's body to begin with are more comfortable with consuming porn from an industry that is largely -- not inherently -- based on using women's bodies as masturbatory aides. Further, higher incidents of rape reports have nothing to do with the actual number of rapes being committed. To suggest so is to completely ignore the complexities of the intersection of rape culture and law enforcement.
Don't get me wrong. I loathe most of what parades around under the label 'pornography'. But that is a symptom of a very disturbed culture. Filming people having sex, taking photographs of naked people, those things are not inherently "bad" or "bad for" anyone at any point in the production. I'm sick and tired of a product being blamed and shunting responsibility away from where it belongs, on the shoulders of people who perpetuate this disturbed culture -- often not even because they believe in what they're perpetuating but because out culture has very effective and exploitable ways of establishing hugely unequal power balances.
Don't blame the product. Blame the culture. Stop assuming that correlation is causation. This whole list of statistics doesn't once actually address what's happening between men and women and sex outside of this boogieman people call 'porn', the politics of race and poverty, rape culture and oppression and the real agenda of social conservatism, or anything that matters. Porn hysteria is just bait.
You forgot
Dude,
don't forget about how women were threated in the 1500s, the 1600s, the 1700s and the 1800s. You rock and your info is up to date!!!! (by the way, I'm just being sarcastic, you're an idiot.)
100% of strippers surveyed in
100% of strippers surveyed in 1999 said that they'd experienced physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal harassment, and offers for prostitution while on the job. (K. Holsopple)
I would be verrrrrry interested in seeing the exact text of that survey. I worked as a stripper for over two years, and I never experienced physical or sexual abuse. Verbal harassment, on the other hand, is a matter of definition. I suspect the original survey listed a number of scenarios with yes/no "has this happened to you" options, that were later defined by the surveyors as "verbal harassment", whether or not the strippers would have defined them as such.
Of course, the other possibility is that the surveyors sought out seedy dive bar strip clubs to find their survey participants.
Offers for prostitution? Sure. That happened plenty of times. But I fail to see how that's horrifying enough to be listed along with physical or sexual abuse.
Your argument reeks of
Your argument reeks of statistical dishonesty. Seriously, I can smell it from here. You have only given correlations, not a single causation, not even a correlation most likely to be the cause.
"Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances."
There is a reason that that amendment is first.
451, eh?
BTW, the handle "Anonymous451" is strangely appropriate here, seemingly taken from "Fahrenheit 451", a book about book burning. Most porn may not exactly be high literature, but campaigns by the state to clamp down on the marketplace of ideas inevitably lead to the same place.
Maybe you don't think burning the work of Lizzie Borden and Rob Black would be such a bad idea, but if the governement gets to do that, what's to stop them from burning the work of Robert Mapplethorpe and Henry Miller?
11.
11. Encourage your favorite porn stars to fom a union.
Don't take WRAP so lightly
I do not agree with your "scientific" take on WRAP at all. I will NEVER thank a clerk for carrying porn or anything else you have an asterisk by. Have you even thought about how detrimental porn can be to a marriage and a person?
I was open with my husband at first. I figured if we were open about porn, it wouldn't make me feel bad. It turns out that it did. It made me feel ugly. It made me feel like my breasts were too small. It made me feel worthless and not good enough. So, I put a stop to it. At least I thought so. But I knew it was still going on. I envied the dead when we drove past cemeteries because I was so far in depression because of it. Knowing that he was looking at it behind my back made me feel more worthless than ever. If I hadn't confronted him, it would've killed our marriage and maybe even me. I still have times when I feel I don't look good enough, and I still have trouble trusting him.
I'm not sure if it was your intention, but this article makes it sound like you're making fun of WRAP. Don't. Just don't. If you haven't experienced what I have, then don't be such a jerk. Think about others who have had problems with something before you make fun of an organization trying to stop it. Have you ever stopped to think that if an organization has been made against something, that loads of people have had problems with it?
"Write a letter to the editor of your local paper explaining that most people who use porn have no problem with it."
Are you serious? People get addicted to that crap and hurt the ones they love!
You're such a jerk.
Symptom or Cause?
Porn doesn't cause low self-esteem. A girl who is (miraculously) raised in modern US society with her self esteem intact until adulthood is not going to suffer emotional trauma from watching porn (or from knowing her husband watches it). A girl whose self esteem is damaged as she grows up, who never resolves her self-image issues, is going to feel inadequate compared to any woman she feels represents the "ideal" she doesn't measure up to, whether they're performing in a porn movie or appearing on the cover of Cosmo.
Seriously ... why doesn't watching porn give men such horrible anxiety about their penis size that it renders them impotent? Why don't men who watch porn become bulimic workout freaks, because most of the men on screen are buffer and trimmer than they are? Because, by and large, men aren't as susceptible to judging themselves harshly against unrealistic expectations. Football fans don't develop inferiority complexes because they can't throw a ball like their favorite quarterback either.
Porn is not an "addiction". Addictions are chemical dependencies that cause physical withdrawal symptoms. Porn is, at worst, a bad habit. Do some men spend way too much time looking at it? Sure ... but they could just as easily be spending too much time playing World of Warcraft, or drinking at the local bar, or building model railroads in the basement, or any number of other escapist pastimes. As someone else already pointed out, porn is a symptom, not a cause.
Fine. Even though my husband
Fine. Even though my husband did admit to it being an addiction, and even though it did totally screw up my self-esteem, you can think whatever you want. All of what happened really hurt and I'm not going to argue with someone about it. Porn is wrong, period. If you don't like what I say, fine. But it's me, and I'm not changing my views.
Addiction, etc
Just because someone becomes addicted to a substance or a product does not make that product categorically wrong. You're husband had a problem with porn addiction, some people have overeating additions, many people are alcoholics. That does not mean there is anything inherently wrong with the thing that they are consuming, but there is something wrong with that indivicual and their relationship with that product. That means those individuals need to change their relationship with these things, or even abstain from consuming them. That does not mean, however, that all or even most people will have a problem with consuming the same product.
Your husband is not all men or all people, and many people look at porn without having addiction issues.
And compulsion isn't
And compulsion isn't addiction, even though nowadays media and even doctors who should know better blur the lines.
Relationship issues, waning attraction, sexual hangups or incompatibilities cannot be laid at the feet of porn even if he says that's the cause. Of course he'll say that's the cause; he may even believe it. It's a theory that's been bandied around for years. It takes the blame off of him and traits he can work on and onto an outside force tempting him to stray. (Guys, avoiding figuring out their emotional stuff? Afraid to the point of evasion of being honest with their SOs? Nah...)
But in the absence of porn, the problem would remain. If the problem is tuning out your beauty in favor of every other new shiny to cross his path, he'll do the same at the mall, or in his thoughts. If the problem is pleasuring himself compulsively to such a degree it takes time and energy away from an interactive sex life, that's a relationship thing, it's an intimacy thing and possibly an avoidance/selfishness thing. Or an escapism thing.
If he's still showing you that he finds you attractive, do yourself a favor. Believe him. He might just be smart enough to know that "grass is always greener" relationship syndrome is exactly that, and his random thoughts about other body types don't mean that's something he needs to go after. Lots of men and women can look at porn without it being a compulsive activity, and without their fantasy sex life getting in the way of (or being a refuge from) their actual sex life.
Look, girls who fit the porn ideal have the same problems. Girls who make porn have the same problems. Sometimes he may not tell you why he's stopped touching you like that, or looking at you the way every other person in the room is looking at you, or why he's utterly disinterested in sex even if he's hard. Sometimes he may not even know. But it's not a personal failing, it's not a porn-is-a-menace thing, it's a "sexuality is complicated, relationships are complicated and most of us have no idea what we're doing, especially when it comes to saying scary, undefined things to the people we trust most" thing.
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Awww muffin... you don't think you look good enough? Here's a fucking tissue. You can't argue against porn because you want a self-esteem boost. Just because your husband was looking at porn doesn't mean he didn't love you and appreciate you all the same, that's not the way it works. Porn is just a fantasy, not a substitute for human relationships and if your fragile ego can't deal with that it's your own problem. Just because I read Harry Potter and, admittedly, wish I go to Hogwarts doesn't mean I'm going to drop out of University.
And you're retarded if you didn't get that he's making fun of WRAP, that's the whole point of the article. Honestly? "I envied the dead"? Stop being a melodramatic bitch and get it through your head that there are much more pressing issues in todays world. Also, your husband still probably watches porn (I'd say like 75% chance).
Sure, people have the right
Sure, people have the right to view whatever they choose. But let's not pretend that there are no ramifications on the self esteem and confidence of women, when they feel they can't satisfy their partner because of porn. It's just another limb on the tree of media which is continuously promoting a very specific image of what a woman should look like, even if it's not realistic. And when your partner is so attached to the viewing of countless other naked women, how ARE we supposed to feel? Not very special.
Porn showcases a wider
Porn showcases a wider variety of bodies than magazines, movies, or TV, all of which most people (of both genders) spend more time surrounded by, and focused on, than porn.
Sure, most Vivid contract girls have a similar age range and body type, but take just a couple of steps outside of that arena and you're faced with a wide array of races, body types, ages, and even - if you look a little harder - gender presentations.
I personally know of several extra-fluffy camgirls who thought of themselves as unattractive until they heard (first from other female performers, then from their male customers) that yes, in the anonymity of the adult internet, guys will admit out loud that they find thick women and BBWs ridiculously attractive. And I'm not only talking about fat fetishists.
Part of the problem here is that an entire gender is letting their self-esteem and confidence remain fragile, rather than examining it and encouraging it to be both healthy and realistic. Yes - self-esteem and confidence are fragile by nature, that's not a gendered admission. Yes - we live in a culture that feeds and encourages that in both genders, and doesn't expect or value female confidence the same way it values male confidence. But we can be big girls and not remain open to every negative influence the world throws at us. There are ramifications when we look to media to set our self-esteem - whenever we look outside ourselves to set our confidence.
This goes right back to those BBW camgirls. After a while of working in this business, they see that every single person has different opinions and standards of attractiveness. They practice and develop the skills of turning others on. They succeed - and receive positive feedback from good clients - and succeeding in a task develops confidence. Their confidence radiates. Once the idea of society's judgment as an oppressive monolith has been broken, it's harder to go back to basing your sense of self-worth on prevailing media ideals.
Or, to put it another way: we live in a society that doesn't value sex work or sex workers. Sex workers have to set our self-worth internally, or we don't survive. It's a skill that can be learned.
people and porn
All industries and most categories of activity have their rough edges. The size of the porn industry is massive; I shouldn't wonder if its financial turnover makes it one of the biggest industries in the Western world. It's not surprising, then, if the porn world's rough edges appear correspondingly large.
I'm a personal contributor to the availabliity of picture porn - no, I'm not claiming to be a porn star! - and I have a great time chatting to my admirers (and some of my rivals - or fellow industry-workers), and finding out what they do when they're not in 'porno mode'... finding out what sort of people they are. I'd say the vast majority are decent people who would not tolerate coercion or harassment in any form. They're a great bunch, and I feel we're - loosely speaking - something of an extended family.
Janet Romano and Rob Zicari
OK, here's a point of discussion as "Pornography Awareness Week" draws to a close, especially since the right-wing anti-porn types seem to have turned out in force to defend the "White Ribbon Campaign".
I ask, why are Janet Romano and Rob Zicari (aka Lizzie Borden and Rob Black) in federal penetentiary for producing what by all accounts was consensual, albeit "extreme" porn. Story here:
http://reason.com/archives/2009/10/27/in-defense-of-extreme-porn
The jailing of Romano and Zicari was a direct result of a campaign by groups like Morality in Media (sponsors of the White Ribbon Campaign) to directly prosecute high-profile producers of pornography. Not necessarilly based on any harm done in the production of porn, but based on the idea that the images in question are "obscene". By all accounts, Romano and Zicari ran clean, consensual productions, and the only reason that they're in jail is because the zealous special prosecutor appointed by the Bush administration managed to convince a jury that the images in question were so offensive that they deserve to be punished. I say, a progressive country that really believed in the values of the First Amendment would not be prosecuting people for what they write or produce, no matter how "offensive".
And to you anti-porn types who have been showing up here – I don't what you hope to achieve by creating a porn-free society, but the fact thatthe groups you put your support behind are directly responsibe for people going to jail merely for speech crimes, I'd suggest its you are the ones who are doing the real harm to society.