Your Sex Magic Reading for February 2009

Aries

Aries: March 21- April 19 for February 2009

Overall: The Devil
Challenge: Wheel of Fortune
Homework: 2 of Fantasies

I've never known an Aries to do things half way, and this month is no exception. You have an interesting dynamic for the month. Our friend the Devil card is both hot and frightening at the same time. This card encourages you to live out your creative fantasies and have everything you want, but at what cost? Don't get lost in your obsessions and addictions; things have to change. It is actually OK to let things end and to try something new. It's fabulous that you have hot interactions at the drop of a coin, but you need to work on opening up your heart. When was the last time you actually had a crush on someone? As Nick Cave wisely wrote: “Let love in.” For you single Rams out there: don't give up. Love is available to you even if you think your love life is doomed. You just need to break some old habits. Take an honest look at yourself. Are you in denial about the weight you’ve gained? Work on yourself first, and others will flock to you. If you are in a relationship: stop obsessing about certain aspects of the relationship, and take a look at it as a whole. You might be missing some of your partner’s amazing traits that, once (re)discovered, will refresh your desire for them.

Taurus

Taurus: April 20- May 20 for February 2009

Overall: 4 of Vibrators
Challenge: The Hermit
Homework: 2 of Paddles

Sometimes life wants us to do the opposite of what we feel is the best for us. Once in a while, it is important to break out of your comfort zone and do something new and a little risky. Overall this month is one where you luxuriate in what you have. Relationships feel comfortable; even being single feels OK. Everything seems to have its place. However, the same questions persist. Is this where you want to be? What needs to change? What do you really want to manifest for yourself? Remember that sometimes even little changes can flow naturally into something new, so you don’t have to feel like the rug was pulled out from under you. Maybe some alone time is really what the doctor ordered. Get a new toy, and experiment with it! Discover what you like. This month it's all about you, but get ready to share all you’ve learned next month.

Gemini

Gemini: May 21- June 20 for February 2009

Overall: Page of Vibrators
Challenge: The Hierophant
Homework: 9 of Whips

Admit it: you get bored easily. You also find excitement in the smallest things. Sex is ADD to you. One minute being tied up is the best thing, and the next you want to see your partner in a nun’s habit. Great!! We all need variety to spice things up. How about telling your boyfriend to bend over and take it? Maybe it's time to take a workshop. Try a class on opening up to your partner about what you really want. There is another side to this coin though. If you feel like you and your partner are having a hard time and you are getting that itch to cheat, go get some couples counseling. Getting everything out in the open will bring some much needed freshness to your relationship. If you are on your own, get out of bed and go out. Staying at home and fretting about “what ifs” won’t get you laid. Maybe at the bend-over-boyfriend class, you will meet the perfect someone who can handle you in all your ADD glory.

Cancer

Cancer: June 21- July 22 for February 2009

Overall: The World
Challenge: 6 of Paddles
Homework: The Empress

Well, gee, it’s tough being you. This month is going to be up there among the most memorable you have had in your life. Things just seem to fall into place. People will shower you with gifts and compliments. You get put on a pedestal. Do you eat it all up? Why, of course! Once in a while, it's nice to realize that you deserve to be treated well, so just sit back and bask in it. Even if someone might have an ulterior motive when they buy you that fabulous MOMA-worthy vibrator, you still get to keep the vibrator! With all this good news, what do you need to work on? It's pretty simple. Give back next month what you got this month. Pay it forward, and everyone will feel like they are a part of something bigger and more amazing. For you single Crabs out there, get a fabulous new outfit and then shake your booty at some non-profit benefit. You will see things shift before your eyes. It is all about how you view yourself: if you feel like an Empress, you will be treated like one.

Leo

Leo: July 23- August 22 for February 2009

Overall: 4 of Paddles
Challenge: The Sun
Homework: 5 of Vibrators.

Winter is tough for you Leos. You crave the outdoors, being free, and doing what you like. You also need to be heard. This month proves a little challenging on all those fronts. While you want to go out and play, you find too much responsibility heaped on your plate. Hosting a swingers’ party takes a back seat to working on your house. Overall trying to save money for bigger and better things is keeping you from being social and outgoing. Don’t close yourself off to your partner, Leo. And don’t bicker either. Even though your partner may have way more energy than you this month, that's no reason to shut him or her out. For you single Lions out there, go to a fetish event and cruise. I know you know how to have fun. Just get over your fear that you are too old, young, fat, thin, or whatever your particular brand of self-loathing is and just reach out. It is a crazy world out there, and the craziness is half the fun.

Virgo

Virgo: August 23- September 22 for February 2009

Overall: 6 of Fantasies
Challenge: 7 of Paddles
Homework: 8 of Fantasies.

It's a memory lane month for you, dear Virgo. Perhaps you’re hooking up with an ex-lover ,or maybe you ran into someone you knew in college and now have a hot date. You feel good, and your connections seem sincere and heartfelt. But it all seems so fleeting. Your challenge is to stop evaluating everything under a microscope. You couldn’t keep it up as long as you did last month? Don’t worry about it. Trust me, the overall energy you put into your sexual relationships is more important that what you actually accomplish. I am sure your partner would be happier if you just made an effort to try something new rather than conceding defeat before you even start. You need a little more Tigger and a little less Eeyore in your life. Single or coupled, this month opens doors that may trigger many things for you. Pay attention to the messages, but don’t jump to conclusions just yet.

Libra

Libra: September 23 – October 22 for February 2009

Overall: 9 of Fantasies
Challenge: Master of Vibrators
Homework: The Magician

If there were a Sex Magic Award of the Month, you would win it, dear Libra. This month is what sex magic is all about: satisfaction guaranteed and your money back. Seriously though, this month is all about fulfillment for you, and impulsiveness will lead to much happiness. Take a risk. Check out that new club or bar that everyone is talking about. Go out and have fun with your friends. If you put out what you want, you will definitely bring it back home with you. It'll be fun for everyone involved. Ruled by the planet Venus, you Libras are naturals at the relationship thing. You just need to work on the getting exactly what you want from that relationship. Remember: consent, consent, consent. Now that I have that word ingrained in your partying head, go meet Bella Donna and make the next Fashionistas video.

Scorpio

Scorpio: October 23 – November 21 for February 2009

Overall: Ace of Fantasies
Challenge: 3 of Vibrators
Homework: Knight of Fantasies.

Is someone seriously humming “Someday My Prince Will Come?” Oh wait, my beloved Scorpio, it’s you! We all fantasize about the perfect partner: the one who will take us away from reality, show us a wonderful time, and make us do naughty things in public before returning us to a clean and redecorated house. Patience, my dear. Someday your prince might just show up at your door. In the meantime, why don’t you create a wonderfully naughty tale [about your prince], write it down, and share it with the next person you are with. Your tale will come alive in a way that blurs the line between reality and fantasy. Enjoy!

Sagittarius

Sagittarius: November 22- December 21 for February 2009

Overall: Five of Fantasies
Challenge: 7 of Vibrators
Homework: 3 of Paddles

Well, I am going to be blunt, Sag: this is just not your best month. Your sex life seems ho-hum—nothing particularly horrible, but nothing memorable either. You feel like you constantly have to prove yourself, which can be very exhausting. Whether you are fighting a cold or the blues, it is affecting your sex life. Even your favorite between-the-sheets activities seem to require too much effort. Don’t worry about it; it is just a month. The blahs are a passing thing, and sometimes it's just better to climb into bed alone than deal with someone else’s snoring and dirty socks. I promise it will get better. At the very least, you can use this time to build up your energy reserves. Alternatively, do you find yourself intrigued by some activity you’ve never done before? This month may be the perfect downtime to learn and study a few new things. Next month reenergized Centaurs can practice what they’ve learned.

Capricorn

Capricorn: December 22- January 19 for February 2009

Overall; 7 of Fantasies
Challenge: Ace of Whips
Homework: 10 of Vibrators

Well, my dear Capricorn brothers and sisters, most people think we are quite reserved and sexually conservative. They are so wrong! We harbor these amazing fantasies about all sorts of things (threesomes, dressing as a French maid, etc.), and sometimes we may even be consumed by them. However, we need to work on communication with respect to these fantasies. You really want to say "Come on let's try this!" but it comes out as “Vanilla again? Sure that’s fine.” Don't do this to yourself. Be vocal about what you want. What good are the 10 vibrators you own if you don’t use them to their best advantage as well as your own? Whether you are single or happily coupled (tripled, etc), bring those fantasies to life. If you do, your stress levels will go down, and you will have a much more sexually fulfilling month.

Aquarius

Aquarius: January 20- February 18 for February 2009

Overall: 2 of Vibrators
Challenge: Death
Homework: 6 of Vibrators

I have two words for you: control freak. The term ‘control freak’ is like the word ‘bitch:’ it has some fabulously positive meanings and some we’d rather not mention (oh, but I will). Come on, guys, I am so glad you know exactly what you like, but being both forceful and narrow-minded will not help you out. If you are single and looking, open up to new possibilities. Maybe that nerdy computer geek who keeps on winking at you on some social networking site really has a thing for furry shackles. You will never know until you open up and give him a chance. If you are in a relationship, let your lover have a say once in a while. Your challenge is learning to get out of the driver’s seat and ride shotgun once in a while. Sex is so much better when you can share, communicate, and engage with your lover. Then everyone will feel like they are a part of the journey instead of just going along for the ride.

Pisces

Pisces: February 19- March 20 for February 2009

Overall: King of Fantasies
Challenge: 5 of Whips
Homework: Queen of Whips

Well, this month is going to be interesting for you, Water Child. Your normal emotional state is going to be amplified tenfold. As usual, you are hypersensitive to everyone’s needs and worries on top of your own. One of your great challenges is to admit defeat and walk away from not being treated fairly. On the other hand, you can also be guilty of being too controlling (for you Pisces, that means passive-aggressive). Which side of the coin are you? This could be the month to venture into a bondage/domination or role-play situation. If you tend to be a victim in your daily life, find your power in being a Dom(me). If you’re usually the Alpha, put on that collar and serve your partner well. For you single Fish, write down the things you fear in relationships and examine them carefully. This month is not necessarily about getting what you want, but about being focused on clearing the path before you.

Your Sex Magic Reading for February 2009

We all know what sex is. Magic is a little more complicated. Magic can be very simply defined as putting conscious thought into action. Put the two words together and BAM!—it's better than chocolate and peanut butter. Sex magic is being conscious of what you and your partner(s) want and making it happen. Sometimes we need an extra person to show us what we are missing. That is why I am here.

Sex magic is about letting go of your stigmas and pretenses and getting real.

Each month, I will draw three cards for each sign. In the tarot, each card carries a very specific meaning, but the individual cards are not as important as the sum of the three together. In the case of sex magic, three things stand out individually and accumulatively. We will look at the month with the Overall Card: will it be good or bad? Fun or serious? Each month has its own tone, and this card sets it. Next is the Challenge Card. Here we look at what pushes your buttons. Sometimes the challenges propel us forward, at other times they keep us from really seeing what we need to focus on. The final card will focus on Homework: what you should be working on this month to enhance your sex life.

Here is to our virgin voyage together. I hope you enjoy this monthly look at making your sex life more magical.

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Sex Magic

by: Ida Lovelace

January 14th, 2009

Ida Lovelace is a professional tarot reader in San Francisco, CA. With over 20 years of experience, she blends humor with insight to help her clients deal with everyday issues. She is available for readings by appointment only. Please contact her at idalovelace@gmail.com for rates and information.