• Friday, March 19, 2010 - 8:31am By Asher Bauer
    It seems like there’s a lot of collaring going around these days. It must be spring. The grass is green, the air is crisp, and mornings of miserable rain alternate with sunlit, clear-skied, mildly breezy afternoons. In such promising March weather...
  • Monday, August 3, 2009 - 2:11pm By Perv Panel
    I'm a gay guy who just got out of a really intense and bad relationship. I’ve always thought of myself as a strong, take-charge person, but somehow my ex was able to dominate me even though it didn’t seem like he was doing it.  I didn’t like that,...
  • Wednesday, July 8, 2009 - 10:33am By Charlie Glickman
    One of the criticisms that gets leveled at BDSM players is the claim that BDSM is violence and that it reinforces social oppressions such as sexism, racism, homophobia, etc. There’s even a Facebook group called the Sex-Positive Leftists...
  • Monday, June 15, 2009 - 2:26pm By Perv Panel
    A little over 6 months ago, I broke up with the woman I had been seeing for a year and half. Well, to be fair, I was dumped. It's been 5 months since I last saw her, much less spoke to her (she was rather adamant in stating that she didn't want to...
  • Monday, June 15, 2009 - 1:51pm By Juba Kalamka
    When I first read your letter, I was concerned about how any answer I gave might be taken given the emotionally delicate space you’re in at the moment. I feel OK saying that you’re doing a great job at being present with your feelings and what’s...
  • Monday, June 15, 2009 - 12:58pm By Sadie Lune
    Oh man! Oh man! Oh whomever! Can I just say: I FEEL YOU. Now let's all take a deep breath of empathy for ourselves and every other soul in heartbreak recovery. This is some of the toughest and most humanizing work of life. You mentioned therapy, and...